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4 Signs You’re Not Actually in Love with Your Partner, According to an Expert

Feeling more platonic, relieved by the idea of leaving, or obligated to stay can all signal the romantic connection has changed.

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Unfortunately, it’s common to confuse loving someone and being in love with someone. Both involve strong feelings of care and fondness, but the distinction is crucial. You can love many people: your family members, friends, etc. However, being in love with a person changes the type of love you feel toward them, often making it more romantic and intimate.

That’s why a common (yet heartbreaking) breakup phrase is, “I love you, but I’m just not in love with you anymore…”

Conflicted about your feelings for/toward your partner? Here are four signs you love them, but are simply not in love with them, according to Steven Buchwald, MD, of Manhattan Mental Health Counseling.

1. Affection Feels Familial or Platonic, Not Romantic

No matter what Disney tries to sell you, no relationship is all romance all the time. However, you should feel a base level of romantic........

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