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The 3 Biggest Reasons People Go Back to Their Exes, According to a Therapist

Fear, familiarity, and nostalgia can make an old relationship feel irresistible, even when the problems that ended it are still there.

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While typically frowned upon, it’s entirely common to rekindle a relationship with an ex, especially in the early phases of a breakup. It can feel impossible to let go of someone you love—someone you’ve spent months or years committed to. And while some reconnections actually are successful, many exes just end up realizing why they broke up in the first place. 

If you’re missing your ex, it’s important to understand the factors driving your desire to rekindle. According to a therapist, here are the three most common reasons people go back to their exes.

The people we date often become our biggest supporters, No. 1 confidants, and primary source of security/reassurance. So when we suddenly end a relationship and attempt to do life on our own........

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