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The Biggest Relationship Red Flag You Probably Haven’t Heard Of, According to a Therapist

If your partner constantly leaves you drained, anxious, or walking on eggshells, therapists say you may be dealing with an emotional vampire.

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Did you know there are vampires living among us? 

Okay, so maybe not the traditional blood-sucking type of vampire you’re imagining, but rather the energy-draining kind that steals the life out of you just the same. These individuals are often hiding in plain sight, yet unaware of their own impact—especially in their most intimate relationships.

Are you dating an energy vampire? Here’s how to find out.

What Is an Energy Vampire?

According to therapist and coach John Sovec in Pasadena, CA, “An energy vampire is that person who seems to drain the life right out of you.”

“You know the one: you meet for coffee, and by the end, you feel like you’ve just run an emotional marathon while they’ve left with a pep in their step,” he continues. “They thrive on attention, drama, and sometimes, unfortunately, your emotional........

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