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The imprimatur of a writer—handwriting, paper, color—engage the senses.

In a fast-moving world, taking a pause to write—and on the other end to open, read, and receive—offers gifts.

Just one of those gifts seems to be a hit of dopamine.

My friend Holly says it’s her therapy to handcraft cards. Happy birthday, thinking of you, sending deep sympathy; whatever it is, it’s her meditation and I shamelessly benefit. I buy them by the bundle, and she insists on selling them on the cheap. Then, I have to use them to keep rotating my supply.

Recently, my 94-year-old father, to whom I sent one of Holly's birthday cards, told me it was the most unique birthday card he’d ever received. After 94 years, he’s earned the right to judge. And hyperbole- or exaggeration-prone, my father is not.

Taking the time to send a handwritten card (let alone create one), takes pausing in a nonstop day. Finding or unearthing the right card or paper. Pen, stamp, physical address. Return address, envelope, mailbox. It seems almost… antiquated. Some adults need help: what side does the stamp go on again? How do I write the address? What’s a “return address,” anyway? Luckily,........

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