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Our personal self-stories are shaped by powerful cultural narratives about progress, work, and purpose.

The progress story gives us hope, but it can also create burnout and a feeling that we are never good enough.

Progress is not neutral; what counts as “better” depends on our values and perspectives.

Real inner change begins when we consciously choose which cultural narratives we want to live by.

A client once told me, “I just feel like I’m not making any progress.” She wasn’t just talking about her career and her personal development. It was something deeper – a lingering sense of being stuck, coasting, falling behind, of living incorrectly, of failing to move steadily forward while everyone else seemed to be moving onwards and upwards into some brighter future.

When I asked what “progress” meant to her, she hesitated. It is one of those ubiquitous concepts we use all the time without truly interrogating them. She couldn’t really articulate it, except by saying “getting better, getting ahead.”

That moment captures something crucial about the stories we tell ourselves about ourselves. Our self-stories do not develop in a vacuum. They are in constant dialogue with larger, culturally shared stories – stories about who we are as a species, how we should live together, about meaning and purpose, and our place in the world.

As embodied, embedded, and encultured beings, we are profoundly shaped by the grand narratives of our culture and our time. We may embrace them, resist them, or absorb them without even noticing. Some of these shared stories have become so natural that we hardly recognise them as stories at all. And yet they shape almost everything.

They influence what we strive for and desire. They shape our ideas of right and wrong, worthy and unworthy. They determine how we think about agency and responsibility, freedom and equality, success and failure. They structure our expectations of ourselves and of others.........

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