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How to Answer Implicit Shame Messages

24.01.2025 10

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Steven Stosny

Easy Forms of Effective Anger Regulation

Easy Forms of Effective Anger Regulation
18.01.2025 10

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Polarization and the Illusion of Certainty

Polarization and the Illusion of Certainty
10.01.2025 10

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Are You Tired of Resentment?

It won’t go away on its own, though it may come out in different ways.

27.12.2024 5

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Staying Sane in an Angry World

It’s no accident that “mad” is a synonym of anger.

20.12.2024 5

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Do Some People Bring Out the Worst in You?

It can happen in a polarized world where people are easily offended.

13.12.2024 3

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We Can’t Blame or Criticize Our Way Into a Good Relationship

"Blame not, lest ye be blamed" is a good motto for romantic partners.

06.12.2024 2

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Well-Being in the Age of Entitlement

Entitlement adds bars to the prison of self.

29.11.2024 2

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The High Cost of Contempt

Contempt may be aimed at others, but it's filled with hidden self-anger.

22.11.2024 3

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How Individuals Can Contribute to a Better World

Contributing in a small way to a better world gives life meaning and purpose.

16.11.2024 4

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Healing the Wounds of Polarization

It requires careful consideration of choices, without knee-jerk reactions.

08.11.2024 2

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Guilt After Betrayal

Guilty feelings are pervasive, lurking beneath resentment, anger, or depression.

01.11.2024 2

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I’m Disappointed, but I Love You

Disappointment doesn’t have to augur emotional divorce.

25.10.2024 2

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The Dark Side of Emotional Needs

The perception of “emotional needs” can make us manipulate, control, or abuse.

18.10.2024 1

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Why Modern Love Relationships Are So Hard

Blame it on habits.

11.10.2024 1

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Anger, Anxiety, Resentment, Stress, and Basic Humanity

To reduce negative feelings, exercise your sense of basic humanity.

04.10.2024 2

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Threats to Basic Humanity

Personal Perspective: It’s not easy to be consistently humane these days.

27.09.2024 2

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The Self-Revealing Nature of Anger

It says more about us than whomever we're angry at.

20.09.2024 2

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When Love Turns to Contempt

Contempt puts relationships in the intensive care unit.

13.09.2024 4

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I Can’t Be Myself While You’re Yourself

Emotional reactivity can turn you into someone you’re not.

30.08.2024 2

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How to Get the Partner You Most Want to Have

In the quest to get—and keep—a partner, this brief experiment might be revealing.

24.08.2024 1

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Core Vulnerabilities in Love

Attempts to avoid what we dread underlie most relationship conflicts.

16.08.2024 2

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How to Drill Down on Feelings for Authenticity

All feelings are real, but not all of them express the authentic self.

02.08.2024 1

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The Danger of Cognitive Biases in Relationships

Addressing biases and prejudices can improve your relationship and your life.

12.07.2024 1

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