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Chronic Illness Is Hard Enough. These Are 3 Signs Someone in Your Life Is Making It Worse.

I’m lucky enough to have understanding and supportive friends and family in my corner, but not everyone can say the same.

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Over the last year, I’ve received more diagnoses (and suspected ones as well) than I know what to do with, some impacting my mental health, fertility, and overall quality of life. That being said, I don’t like to play victim to these conditions, as they’re merely an experience rather than an identity to assume.

But at the same time, I’d be lying if I said I could operate like the average healthy 30-year-old woman. My flare-ups can be pretty severe (and sometimes even dangerous), so I’ve learned about the importance of boundaries, rest, and emotional peace.

Unfortunately, this has put a strain on some of my closest relationships. I’ve had to cancel plans at the last minute due to my symptoms, turn down the girls’ weekend trip thanks to financial stress from medical bills, and I simply haven’t been able to show up for my people as much as I’d like to. I’m lucky enough to have understanding and supportive friends and family in my corner, but not everyone can say the same. In fact, I’ve even dealt with some uncompassionate (to put it lightly) individuals in my own life who’ve caused me more stress, guilt, and........

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