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An Expert Gave Us 5 Signs Your Partner Loves What You Do for Them, Not You

It can be harder to spot than you think.

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Sometimes, we don’t realize how unhealthy our relationship dynamics are until we hear external opinions or input. When in love, many people overlook red flags or view their partners through rose-colored glasses. This can cause them to be unaware that their partner is actively taking advantage of them and their accommodating nature. 

“When someone feels that they’re being ‘used’ in a relationship, it’s usually not because there was some single, defining moment or behavior exhibited by their partner,” Dr. Alexandra Foglia, DMFT, Director of Family Programs of All in Solutions, a network of treatment centers located in Florida, New Jersey, and California, told VICE. “It’s generally due to a repeated pattern where the relationship is predominantly beneficial to one partner while the other partner carries most of the load when it comes to being supportive on an emotional, financial, and/or practical level.”

Over time, however, this pattern might feel normal to someone who’s been living it for months or years. That’s why it’s crucial to regularly check in with yourself (and your partner) when you’re noticing an imbalance. Here are five signs you’re........

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