I think it’s fair to say that many of us have had experiences working with others where leadership skills were lacking.

Perhaps you’ve had a manager, coach, or friend handle you like you were a ‘subject’ to be told what to do. Or perhaps worse yet, you had a parent who incessantly tried to control everything you did, reminding you of everything you should or should not be doing. I’m curious: how did those experiences make you feel?

Now, consider what your children hear from you each day. Are you trying to control them with your words? If so, such strategies often end up with harsh psychological consequences. Let’s consider your options.

Good leaders display several qualities that separate them from poor leaders. First, they lead by example and walk their talk. They carefully consider how to teach, how to guide, and what systematic ways they can lead others responsibly. They don’t yell at others and expect them to remain calm. They don’t preach one message yet do something different. Leaders are good examples for their followers.

Leaders nurture a positive vision and keep their focus there. Children need parents with a vision of how good the family can be. How much can they contribute to their community? How hard can they work on the soccer field? How much love is possible when you commit your life to it? Good leaders bring a vision of possibility into the home and........

© The Saratogian