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Jessica Ghitis

Jessica Ghitis

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Populism Vs. Secure Attachment

Earlier this year I went on a few dates with a guy recently out of a relationship who was focused on handling his anxious attachment style. He was in...

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Jessica Ghitis

Can Soccer Make Politics Disappear?

Can Soccer Make Politics Disappear?

I spent the better part of 2024 and 2025 on airplanes and in hotel rooms. Most of my dating took place while in transit. I almost avoided dating in...

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How to Vet Dates and Politicians

My friend was going through a break-up. We sat on the grass outside her home as I tried to convince her to hate her ex. I had been seeing New Guy....

09.06.2026 50

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Admitting Your Candidate is Toxic is Step One

Last week, I sat at happy hour with one of my best friends. For the purposes of this article, I’ll call them Bay Gay. They’re a gay from the Bay...

02.06.2026 50

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He Fumbled Me Like a Nuclear Negotiation

Moving to Los Angeles ten years ago hit me like a nuclear bomb. I had just been through my first round with Alcoholic Ex-Boyfriend (for those who have...

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Allyship won’t flirt with you from across the bar

Spanish Guy and I walked out of a bar on Valencia Street, hands brushing, almost holding. I like a guy to make the first move. The sounds of...

21.05.2026 60

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I Want Israel to Be a Guy from Oklahoma

In the first few months of 2020, I dated a Regular Guy from Oklahoma. Or Wisconsin. He may have actually been from Nebraska. He was definitely...

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Things Not to Say on Dates or On Television

I was running late, which is unlike me, but work had thrown me into a week of community engagements and television interviews I was unprepared—and...

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Forgetting Your First Love/First Country You Flee

I didn’t know it at the time, but I met my first real love when I was fifteen. He was tall and confident, that was my first impression of him. We...

29.04.2026 90

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How to Tell if You’re the Other Woman

One thing I wasn’t prepared for in dating was a man’s marital status. I felt good about my ability to spot fuckbois and their vices. I didn’t...

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He Said “Let’s Be Friends” the Day We Bombed Iran

He didn’t say that, but it’s a much more appealing headline than “I don’t think we’re a long-term match.” I was getting a haircut, telling...

08.04.2026 70

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Is Israel My Alcoholic Ex-Boyfriend?

I’ve been trying to figure out my relationship with Israel, and unfortunately, the closest comparison is my alcoholic ex-boyfriend. My ex wasn’t a...

02.04.2026 90

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Jessica ghitis