Who Is the People-Pleaser?

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The people in your life miss out on the wisdom you have to share if you don't voice your opinions.

You are worthwhile and lovable even if you aren't people-pleasing all of the time.

You have a personal style and pattern of how you interact with others. This pattern of behavior is how you and others know whether you are acting "normally" or not. Your interpersonal style has likely been shaped by your life experiences, the expectations others have for you, cultural norms, and your personal preferences of how you want to show up in the world. It can sometimes be a challenge to maintain a healthy balance between what you, others, and the world expect of you.

Have you noticed a pattern in which you repeatedly compromise your needs and preferences to make others happy? Has this pattern persisted for so long that self-sacrifice is the expectation you and others have for you?

People-pleasing involves putting your own needs behind others' in an effort to make them happy or to avoid being viewed negatively. You may find that you let others get their way because you don't want to deal with an argument or have anyone be mad or disappointed with you. Your people-pleasing may be driven by fear, discomfort, and anxiety.

You May Fall Into the Trap of People-Pleasing If:

You find it difficult to advocate for what you want when you encounter resistance from others.

You take on additional work, just so others don't get upset with you.

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