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Intimacy reduces the distance you normally use to regulate yourself.

Nothing kills desire faster than emotional self-protection masquerading as harmony.

Nothing revives desire faster than a couple willing to stand in discomfort without demanding immediate relief.

When desire fades or connection begins to strain, most couples assume the relationship is broken. They start searching for quick fixes: better communication tools, date nights, compatibility quizzes, new techniques or toys to reignite the spark… The underlying belief is simple: Something went wrong, and we need to get back to what we had.

But often something far more unsettling is happening.

Intimacy has stopped functioning as a refuge and started functioning as a mirror.

This is the moment partnerships begin to wobble. Not because love disappeared but because closeness is no longer buffering you from yourself. It’s hard to tolerate your own anxiety, longing, or insecurity without immediately trying to get your partner to soothe or fix it for you. They weren’t put on this earth for that. Sorry. They’re not your pacifier.

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