One of the most painful dilemmas couples face is this: One partner still wants sex, intimacy, and erotic connection—and the other doesn’t. Or can’t. Or no longer recognizes themselves in that realm.

Sometimes the mismatch was always there. One partner was never particularly interested in sex, but it was manageable, ignorable, or deferred.

Other times, something shifted: menopause, illness, trauma, aging, exhaustion, an existential change in life perspective.

And sometimes, one person kept growing emotionally, erotically, or sensually, without making that growth contingent on their partner’s participation. Now they’ve arrived somewhere new, and the relationship hasn’t caught........

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