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Why Losing a Friend Can Hurt More Than a Romantic Breakup, According to a Therapist

Losing a close friend can trigger unexpected grief. A psychotherapist explains why friendship breakups hurt and how to heal.

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If you’ve ever lost touch with an old friend, someone who used to be like family to you, you likely understand just how complex the grief can be. Also called a “friendship breakup,” these endings can be incredibly painful—some say even more so than a regular breakup.

“Just like a romantic breakup, [a friendship breakup] is a discontinuation of a connection and security, which is often a big ol’ OUCHIE-feeling,” says Alli Spotts-De Lazzer, Speaker, Licensed Psychotherapist, and Eating Disorders Specialist.

If you’re going through a friendship breakup, read on to learn some therapist-backed tips for coping.

Why Friendship Breakups Are Especially Cruel

When we enter a romantic relationship, we likely aren’t expecting to break up with our partner down the line. However, the idea of a breakup in a relationship is far more prevalent than it is in a friendship.

“For some, it’s........

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