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TikTok Has a New Theory About Happy Couples. Does It Hold Up?

Matchmakers explain TikTok’s ‘rock-and-star’ relationship theory, including when opposite personalities click and when resentment builds.

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If you’re on TikTok, you’ve probably heard of the latest dating trend: the rock-and-star theory. This relationship theory suggests that opposites attract. But is it really as healthy as it seems? I spoke with dating coaches and matchmakers about their perspectives.

What Is the Rock-and-Star Relationship Theory?

The rock-and-star relationship theory states that there are two types of partners in a couple: the rock (aka the stable one) and the star (aka the spontaneous one). Together, these two are thought to make the perfect pair.

“The rock-and-star relationship theory is the idea that an ideal relationship is when the two individuals are opposite in terms of energy/personalities,” says Susan Trombetti, matchmaker and CEO of Exclusive Matchmaking.

“The ‘rock’ is the more........

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