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Introducing ‘Soft Socializing,’ the Social Trend That Lets You Connect Without Feeling Drained

A psychologist says low-pressure activities like walks, coffee dates, and creative hangouts can help people connect without burning out.

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Does your social battery run out too quickly? Every time you attend a party, wedding, or other large gathering, do you fight the urge to close your eyes while trying to perform socially? If so, you’re in good company—and there’s nothing wrong with you.

In fact, you might be better suited to soft socializing, a gentler option for more introverted, anxious, or burned-out people.

What Is Soft Socializing?

According to Robert G. Alexander, Ph.D., cognitive scientist and assistant professor of psychology and counseling at New York Institute of Technology, “‘Soft socializing’ refers to intentional low-pressure, often activity-based forms of hanging out, as opposed to going to loud bars or parties.”

“Many social settings are organized around performance: people often feel like........

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