The Fundamentals of Sex

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Is there a right amount of sex to have? Or a right amount of desire for sex?

That might sound like a weird question. But it came up the other day when I was chatting with fellow sex therapist Dr. Skye Henry-Smith on our podcast, Untangling Intimacy. This is the kind of unanswerable question you find yourself fielding in the middle of a tough couples session.

It’s easy, when you’re distressed, to treat your therapist as an impartial arbiter who can prove you right and your partner wrong — or, if not, give you a solid answer and therefore reduce the discomfort of being in a relationship where you want different things.

So, when it comes to a desire discrepancy, your clients might want to hear: There’s something wrong with my partner, right? They want sex WAY too much (or too little). Or,........

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