The Fundamentals of Sex

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Chatbot bonds can resolve the most common reason couples seek sex therapy.

The appeal of AI companionship can be a wake up call for us all.

Physical human touch remains necessary for our well-being.

The rise of AI intimacy requires us all to be more intentional in our relationships.

I spend a significant portion of my clinical practice helping couples with the same fundamental problem: keeping romantic passion alive in long-term relationships. Partners come in to therapy feeling disconnected, sexually bored, caught between their need for security and their longing for novelty. They love each other but struggle to maintain erotic interest over years or decades together.

Chatbot "romances" don't have this problem. And that fact is worth sitting with.

We Expect Too Much From Our Partners

Let's be honest about what we're asking from romantic partners in modern relationships. We want them to be everything: passionate lovers, intimate friends, reliable attachment figures, social companions, co-parents if we have kids, financial partners, and perhaps even more. We want them to look good, listen attentively, respond to our needs, reassure us, never reject us, stay sexually interested, and somehow maintain mystery and novelty after seeing us at our worst for years.

This is an impossible job description. No human can meet all these needs. We get tired, we have our own needs, we feel depleted,........

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