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Abuse survivors are often told they should be over their trauma, or that their experience was not real trauma.

Healing is largely shaped by available support, safety, and resources, which not all of us have access to.

Time alone does not heal what we have not yet processed.

I was on social media yesterday—as one does.

I had posted a reel in support of survivors of rejection, using my personal experience as an example. And while I was scrolling, I noticed someone had commented on it:

“Why are you not over this yet? This happened, what, 20 years ago?”

“Why are you not over this yet? This happened, what, 20 years ago?”

My first thought—besides Yikes, I guess my anti-aging cream isn’t working as well as I thought—was to keep scrolling and ignore it—one of those things I try to teach all my younger clients, but often struggle to do myself.

But then I noticed they had commented again:

“People really overuse the word trauma lately. Family rejection isn't even real trauma. Many people get over that type of trauma, or something similar, in less time. If you’re still harping on it, then you’re stuck.”

“People really overuse the word trauma lately. Family rejection isn't even real trauma. Many people get over that type of trauma, or something similar, in less time. If you’re still harping on it, then you’re stuck.”

So of course, like any emotionally strong person who absolutely knows better than to seek external validation on social media, I immediately went down a rabbit hole seeking validation on social media. I........

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