The Fundamentals of Sex

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Human beings have always had sex, yet many of us still don't know what makes for good sex.

Social shame and reticence coupled with inaccurate media depictions skew our ideas of what makes good sex.

Science actually tells us how to maintain healthy and fulfilling sex lives over the long-term.

When it comes to what goes into consistent, sustained, and pleasurable sex, most of us have no clue.

If you believe what you see in the movies, you’ll think everyone but you is having spontaneous orgasms standing up in the shower. If you believe every headline you read in the news, you’ll think we’ve forgotten or forsaken sex all together. If you believe your pastor or tradwife influencer, you’ll think that if you're not having sex to make babies, you're morally depraved.

Like I said—perennially, tragically clueless.

As a philosopher, I spend a lot of time teaching people how spirituality is the pathway to alleviating sexual shame. As a scientist, I recognize that data helps. And when it comes to what makes good sex, science tells us much that we need to know.

A 2014 study found that sexual satisfaction has two........

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