I felt really stuck after going through a painful break-up in my mid-20s. I was burnt out from my job as a jail counselor and felt very blah overall.

After a few months of nursing my broken heart, I finally got motivated, enrolled in a graduate class, updated my resume, and began looking for another job. Nine months later, I finally got out of jail, landed a corporate job in human resources, began my Master’s degree, and took my workouts to a whole new level. My broken heart was slowly fused back together, and not because of another relationship with someone else, since I was distracted by my own personal and professional development.

Nobody wins in war, so nothing good ever comes from revenge. Despite the fact that someone else might have wronged us, do we really want to try to jeopardize everyone’s (including our own) reputation, career, mental health, relationships, and overall well-being? The person attempting to cancel another through

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