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Don't reflexively react and put yourself in a position you'll regret.

Separate your support from their disrespect, realizing their "I hate you" is often emotional overload.

Change the pattern by changing how you respond and let that reset the outcome.

A mom named Jen said to me this week, "Piper, my adult daughter, told me she hates me... then two days later she asked if I could help her with rent." The names are changed in this example, but the theme is something I hear often when coaching parents. This mom elaborated that she felt furious at the time, not only because Piper said "I hate you" and then asked for money, but because Piper acted like her outburst never even happened.

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