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"Cobwebbing" means clearing away any "threads" that may be keeping you mentally or emotionally tied to an ex.

It entails getting rid of any physical and digital reminders of your ex and establishing clear boundaries.

Otherwise, your ex may end up living rent-free in your head and heart, leaving little room for anyone new.

If seems to hard to do, consider sweeping away everything all at once and getting someone to help you.

Are your head and heart websites, so to speak—meaning, are they still filled with the remnants, or "cobwebs," of a previous relationship? Well, you might want to go "cobwebbing" then and remove all of them. "Cobwebbing," a term popularized by the dating app Bumble, means clearing away any "threads" that may be keeping you mentally or emotionally tied to an ex.

How Do You Do 'Cobwebbing'

This is not the same as spider-webbing, which I've described before for "A Funny Bone to Pick" as trapping someone in a bad, toxic relationship—a much creepier thing to do. No, cobwebbing is the opposite. It's about you getting away.

Cobwebbing entails getting rid of any physical reminders of your ex—like that Slanket that you used to cuddle together in, that alpaca figurine that was your birthday gift from your ex, or that lair that you used to share. Oh, and if your ex is somehow still hanging out with you in some way, your ex would qualify as a physical........

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