Dear Dr. G.,

I am a 61-year-old woman, and I have to say that aging has caused me a lot of confusion, both personally and in my friendships. When I turned 59, I was diagnosed with a chronic health issue. Initially, I was devastated and blamed it on aging. I was terrified about where this might lead. This took a turn, though, when I found an excellent physician who has prescribed medication that keeps my symptoms under control. Because of this experience, I am grateful for every single day.

Many of my friends, on the other hand, complain about aging and the toll it takes on them. This is a bit difficult for me because I now believe that to be alive is a gift and even a luxury. From my perspective, aging is a wonderful problem to have. Please help me by suggesting ideas on how to handle this issue. It's very hard for me to empathize with the complainers.

—Jayne

Dear Jayne,

I totally understand your dilemma and conflict. Good for you for your gratitude! It would be wonderful if you would share your outlook on........

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