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Frank Spinelli M.d

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The Quiet Cruelty of Erasure

The Quiet Cruelty of Erasure

Rejection says you weren’t chosen. Erasure says you were never seen.

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I Know You Are, But What Am I?

Name-calling doesn’t just hurt its target. It tells everyone what's acceptable.

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'Coming Out' Isn’t Disclosure; It’s Transactional

For the LGBTQIA, 'coming out' is more than just a date on a calendar.

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It’s Hard to Talk About Rape

With sexual assault, shame silences first, and then institutions finish the job.

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Sober October Tests Boundaries

Developing discernement may lead to a smaller circle of friends.

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Getting Sober Might Be the First Time You Actually Feel Sex

Why intimacy gets harder before it gets better.

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Why It's So Hard to Change

Henrik Ibsen's character Nora was courageous.

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Stop Apologizing for Everything

When saying “I’m sorry” becomes self-erasure.

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Why High Achievers Are Often the Most Ashamed People

The problem isn’t achievement—it’s the perfectionism beneath the surface.

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