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Carl E Pickhardt Ph.dPsychology Today |
Dealing with adversity can strengthen teenagers in ways they don't always see.
To stay on track, teens need to keep past, present, and the possible future in mind.
Laugh with each other to lighten life up, not "at" each other to tease or hurt.
Anticipating development in their teenager can help parents adjust to change.
Parental influence increasingly depends on adolescent willingness to cooperate.
Incompatibilities can increase discontent as parents and teenagers grow apart.
Protecting against and preparing for the risks of growing up is hard to do.
Teenagers can learn from parental experience—from the good and the bad.
Being made fun of isn't funny when it hurts feelings and harms self-esteem.
As teenage individuality and independence grow, parents can feel less in control.
The trials of growing up can create more to get mad about.
To try harder, test capacity, play rivals, win opportunity, and get ahead.
When childhood ends, parental expectations must be adjusted.
Compromise teaches that some of what is wanted is going to be enough.
Explaining the complexity of managing a romantic relationship.
How parents can help teens get better at cooperating and communicating.
Common teenage changes worth anticipating and responding to.
Fear is useful, and teens needn't pretend they don't feel it.
Growing apart increases distance, diversity, and disagreement between them.
It's harder to grow up during adolescence when doing it alone.
With a growing teenager, it can take longer to get requests promptly met.
More mutual irritation can arise as youthful individuality and independence grow.
It takes parental effort to get a teenager to give regular household help.
Realistic expectations help adjustment to independence; unrealistic ones do not.
Interest increases in discovering and experiencing what is older and adult.
A lack of immediate gratification of requests can be frustrating.