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Introducing ‘Cushioning,’ the Latest Toxic Trend That Dating Experts Say Is a Red Flag

Cushioning means keeping romantic backup options on standby while still in a relationship, and experts say secrecy is a major warning sign.

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Unfortunately, dating in 2026 pretty much involves labeling a bunch of toxic, disturbing behaviors and patterns as “dating trends.” The latest? Cushioning, aka being in a relationship while entertaining potential backup plans should you and your partner break up.

Isn’t that just lovely?

It’s not a new concept, unfortunately. In fact, I’m pretty sure my ex did this to me long before the term even existed. But hey, maybe if we can name the issue, we can better avoid it going forward, right?

Let’s dissect this concerning dating trend with an expert.

You know the expression “cushion your fall”? Well, some people cushion their relationships…with other people. In other words, they keep exes or “friends” around as prospective partners, should their current relationship fail.

“Cushioning is........

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