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Gen Z Are Accidentally Tolyamorous (and They Hate It)

More young adults are falling into relationship gray areas where commitment is assumed, rarely discussed, and often misunderstood.

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I recently wrote an article about the new dating trend called “tolyamory,” which is not to be confused with polyamorous, a form of ethical non-monogamy. Tolyamory essentially describes a mismatch of wants/needs in a relationship, leading to one partner “tolerating” the other’s infidelity.

Well, a new survey conducted by ClarityCheck suggests that much of Gen Z is stuck in this dating dynamic, with exclusivity being an uncertain and often off-limits topic. In fact, of the 3,890 adults aged 18 to 35 surveyed, 34% said they’re unsure whether their romantic relationship is exclusive. Essentially, they’re turning a blind eye to the fact that their partner might be hooking up with other people. 

Additionally, 42% said they waited longer than three months before discussing exclusivity, while 28% said they never directly addressed the subject. This is likely why “situationships” are so popular........

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