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A Surprising Number of Long-Term Couples Admit to Hating Their Partner

Unspoken resentment can build for months or even years, turning small unresolved issues into a full-blown emotional sinkhole.

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New research by Tawkify found that a whopping 37% of people in long-term relationships believe they’re carrying unresolved resentment toward their partner.

What’s worse? They haven’t voiced it.

Additionally, among those carrying resentment, nearly 68% have been holding it for over a year, with most holding it for around 18 months. 

Unaddressed resentment is one of the most severe threats to healthy relationships. When someone secretly resents their partner, they might be more passive-aggressive, less affectionate, and overall unfulfilled.

How Resentment Builds in Relationships

According to Tawkify’s research, 84% of people whose relationships ended said that unresolved or unspoken issues play a role. When you fail to address your concerns, resentment inevitably builds and erodes the connection.

“The main reason why resentment builds in a relationship is because of unresolved issues that occur over time,” says Krista Walker, LCSW, J.D., Clinical Director at The Ohana Luxury Addiction........

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