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‘Friendfluence’ Is the Dating Trend for Singles Who Don’t Want to Swipe Alone

Friends can help spot dating red flags, but experts say too much input can drown out your own feelings and intuition.

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Would you let your friend be the copilot of your love life? A new dating trend called “friendfluence” shows that many singles are trusting their pals to guide their dating decisions. 

But is this actually a healthy choice?

What Is Friendfluence?

According to Chloë Bean, LMFT, a somatic trauma therapist in Los Angeles, “Friendfluence is about letting your friends into your dating life and operating like co-pilots.”

As its name suggests, the dating trend involves the “influence of friends,” which is quite common—but how much is too much?

“There are [fewer] boundaries with friendfluence; your friend might be vocal about who should get a second date, what is ok and not ok for you,” she explains. “This can feel like a protective dynamic on the surface, but it can create confusion when boundaries are blurred.”

Pros of Friendfluence

It Encourages Support From Friends

Everyone needs support from their loved........

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