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The Problem With the ‘Dating Down’ Trend

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26.07.2026

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The Problem With the ‘Dating Down’ Trend

Sometimes it’s not actually dating down, they’re just an a—hole.

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There’s a somewhat off-putting dating trend that’s going around right now, and I have mixed feelings about it…

Labeled “dating down,” this particular dating approach involves dating someone who you perceive as “below you” in some way, whether in attractiveness level, financial status, or some other superficial measurement.

Let’s dip a bit deeper, shall we?

Dating down means dating below your typical standards. Perhaps you’re entering a romantic relationship with someone who doesn’t make as much money as you do, who you don’t perceive as conventionally attractive, who lacks emotional maturity, or who might not be on the same education level. 

One article on The Asia Business Daily views “dating down” strictly in terms of physical attractiveness—similar to the dating trend “shrekking.” According to writer Choi........

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