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Introducing Fraysexuality, the Sexual Orientation That Could Explain Why You Get ‘Bored’ So Fast

Experts say fraysexuality is often mistaken for intimacy issues, even though it’s a legitimate sexual orientation.

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There’s a reason that hot stranger is so intriguing. The mystery, the projection, the total absence of knowing how they load a dishwasher. For fraysexual people, that unknown quality is the engine of sexual desire—and once it’s gone, so does that desire.

Fraysexuality is a sexual orientation in which desire is strongest with people someone doesn’t know well. Once emotional intimacy develops, sexual desire fades, and in many cases disappears entirely. The romantic feelings can stay intact. The sex drive, pointed at that particular person, does not.

It sits on the asexuality spectrum, and it’s essentially the mirror image of demisexuality,........

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