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6 Signs Someone Is Hiding Their Attraction Toward You

Playing it cool is a skill. Convincing your body to get with the program is a lot harder.

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People are remarkably bad at concealing attraction. They control their words, manage their expressions, say all the right casual things…but then their pupils blow wide open, their feet swivel toward you, and they copy everything you do without realizing it.

Psychology has been cataloging these involuntary tells for a very long time. Here are six of the most glaring ones.

The chameleon effect is one of the most well-documented phenomena in social psychology. A landmark 1999 study found that people unconsciously mimic the posture, gestures, and mannerisms of those they feel drawn to. Meanwhile, the person being mirrored almost always responds by liking the mimicker more, even without knowing why.

Crossing their legs when you cross yours. Picking up their drink when you pick up yours. Matching your speech pace without realizing it. The brain does all of this on its own, below conscious awareness, it’s not a decision. Sustained mirroring across multiple behaviors is nearly impossible to maintain intentionally, and that’s what makes it one of the more reliable signals available.

Their Pupils Are changing

This one requires good lighting and a little attention, but........

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