We live in a society that prizes ambition, celebrating goal-setting, and hustle culture as praiseworthy vehicles on the road to success. We also live in a society that associates successfully getting whatever our hearts desire with happiness. The formula we internalize from an early age is that desire ambition goal-setting doing what it takes = a successful, happy life.

But as Harvard University happiness researcher Arthur C. Brooks has found, in his studies as well as his own experience, that happiness doesn’t follow that formula. “It took me too long to figure this one out,” Brooks told podcast host Tim Ferriss, explaining why he uses a “reverse bucket list” to live a happier life.

The birthday list that changed everything

Brooks shared that on his birthday, he would always make a list of his desires, ambitions, and things he wanted to accomplish—a bucket list. But when he was 50, he found his bucket list from when he was 40 and had an epiphany: “I looked at that list from when I was 40, and I’d checked everything off that list. And I was less happy at 50 than I was........

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