A 2-year-old is lying on the floor yelling, with their socks pulled off after spending 15 minutes trying to get them on in the first place.

A caregiver might take a deep breath and think, “Here we go again – another ‘terrible two’ tantrum.”

What is really going on?

Toddlers are developing autonomy and a growing sense of self. They are becoming aware that they are separate from other people and can make their own choices.

As 2-year-olds and other young children develop this understanding of themselves, they may express strong emotions when decisions are made for them, tasks are completed on their behalf, or they are quickly moved from one activity to another. These reactions are often a response to their growing desire for independence and their inexperience calmly communicating their emotions.

What you might call a “temper tantrum” may instead be a young child communicating their emotions in the best way they know how. These expressions of emotion may continue when they are not supported or understood from a different perspective.

As an assistant professor in early childhood education, I have worked alongside young children for more than 25 years. I feel it’s important to recognize that supporting young children, especially 2-year-olds, takes time.

Caring for a toddler can be challenging and requires patience. There are strategies that........

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