We all have times in our lives when we feel we don't know what to do.

Keys are accepting mistakes, seeing problems as bad solutions to other problems, learning to take risks.

Most important of all is learning to be honest with yourself and others.

We all have times in our lives when we feel uncertain about what to do—whether to take that new job, move to Ohio, buy that dress, or tell your partner about trauma from your past. Whether the decisions are big or small, our stuckness is often tied to our personality, default behaviors, assumptions, and attitudes. Here are six foundational guidelines, along with action steps for implementing them, that you can always turn to when you’re not sure what to do:

#1: How you do anything is how you do everything.

This is a well-known quote from Buddhism. Life can be divided into what and how. What is the content of our days—what we ate for lunch, decisions like taking the job. How is about the process—how you go about deciding what to eat for lunch, the job.

The quote essentially says that how you handle problems and decisions, manage stress, and run your life follows a regular pattern and process. You may, for example, be emotionally driven or impulsive, or overly cautious and fearful of making mistakes or upsetting others; though the content may change, your process is consistent.

Action: Your how can often be your Achilles’ heel, the very thing you struggle with most—the impulsiveness, your fear—that limits your life or leads to bad decisions. Step back and........

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