True power focuses on inner emotions, beliefs, and intentions, not controlling others.

Welcoming your inner flaws boosts personal power and authenticity.

Projections reveal hidden parts we must embrace for wholeness.

Power often gets a bad rap. It certainly knows how to get us into trouble. Sometimes, the ego doesn’t know when it has had its fill of power. The ego is quite susceptible to believing that more power is better, regardless of how much it has. With a touch of psychological instability, the ego might seek to wield as much power as possible, irrespective of the harm it causes. We all know some characters who are unable to be satisfied with power. Unriddled power is likely a compensation for low self-esteem.

Both the ancient and the current definitions of the word power are “able to.” Of course, there are countless ways to express our ability to do something. Some acts of power will benefit us and others, while others will have an unfavorable impact. We can ask, “What constitutes real power and what makes up provisional acts of power?” There is a nuanced distinction between the two that is easily overlooked. Provisional expressions of power involve other people. Real acts of power reflect our relationship with ourselves, especially how we relate to our inner worlds, as well as how we relate to the external world.

When we attempt to lead, influence, or control others, and when they cooperate, we can easily fall into the delusion that we hold power over them. However, we have as much power over others as they allow us........

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