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Why Women Get Stuck in Their Careers (and How to Move Again)

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Career stagnation often stems from unclear direction, not lack of capability.

Performance alone is rarely enough for advancement; visibility and sponsorship matter.

Without protected time for growth, even strong ambition and plans will stall.

Feeling stuck in your career is more common than most people admit.

On paper, you might be doing well. You are competent, reliable, and often the person others turn to when something needs to get done. Yet, inside, you may feel flat, stalled, or unsure what comes next.

You are not alone in this. In our work with women across industries and countries, we see the same patterns appear again and again. The good news is that once you can see what is keeping you stuck, you can begin to change it.

Signs you might be stuck

You may be stuck if you notice some of the following:

You have not progressed in role, scope, or responsibility for some time.

You feel bored, underused, or disconnected from your work.

You are working hard, but your efforts are not translating into visible advancement.

You are unsure what you actually want next, so you stay where you are.

You keep thinking about making a change, but take little or no action.

None of this means you are failing. It simply means you have reached a point where your career needs more deliberate attention.

Reason 1: Lack of clear direction

It is difficult to move forward when you are not sure where you want to go.

Many women are so busy delivering on their current role that they have very little time to think about their longer-term direction. Without a clear sense of what you want, it is easy to say yes to everything, react to whatever comes up, and stay in the same place by default.

Questions to ask yourself:

What do I want my role to look like 12 to 24 months from now?

Do I want more leadership, more depth in my area of expertise, a change of function, or a different organisation?

How do I want work to feel day to day?

You do not need every detail. You do need a general direction that feels honest.

Reason 2: Visibility gaps

Working hard is not the same as being seen for the value you bring.

Women are often very strong on delivery and reliability, but less focused on strategic visibility. As a result, decision-makers may not fully understand the scope of what they do, the impact they have, or the potential they hold.

Common visibility gaps include:

Doing excellent work, but not communicating your achievements

Staying in the background of projects instead of taking visible roles

Avoiding self-promotion because it feels uncomfortable or inauthentic

To progress, people need to know who you are, what you do well, and what you want next.

Reason 3: No space for growth work

Career growth requires more than getting through the workload. It requires time to think, plan, connect, and learn.

Many women are stuck simply because there is no capacity left after meetings, emails, and delivery. Growth tasks always seem to be something you will get to later.

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Where in my week is there dedicated time for my own career development?

What can I stop, delegate, or reduce to create even one to two hours of space?

Without that space, even a clear plan will stall. Build the time into your calendar so that it’s a priority, not an afterthought.

Reason 4: Confidence and self-advocacy

Even highly capable women can struggle to advocate for themselves.

You might hesitate to:

Ask for a promotion or salary review

Put your name forward for a stretch opportunity

Say out loud what you want your next step to be

Often, this is not a true lack of ability. It is self-doubt, fear of judgment, or internal narratives such as “I should be grateful for what I already have” or “I need to be fully ready before I ask.”

Confidence is not about never feeling doubt. It is about being able to act in alignment with your goals, even when doubt is present.

Reason 5: Limited strategic support

Women often progress rapidly early in their careers based on performance alone. At more senior levels, sponsorship, networks, and relationships play a larger role.

Being stuck can sometimes mean:

You do not have a sponsor who actively advocates for you.

Your network is mostly peers rather than decision-makers.

You are not regularly in conversations about your future path.

Support does not guarantee progression, but it significantly increases your access to information, opportunities, and feedback.

How to start moving again

Getting unstuck is rarely about one dramatic decision. It is usually the result of a series of considered steps taken over time.

Here are five practical moves to begin now.

1. Name what you actually want.

Spend time getting clear on what you want next, even if it feels uncomfortable to admit it.

If there were no barriers, what would I want my next role or chapter to be?

What is attracting me about that, and what concerns me?

What is the smallest step I can take to move toward it?

Writing this down in simple language is an important first step. Clarity reduces confusion and helps you recognise aligned opportunities when they appear.

2. Conduct a career audit.

Compare your current situation with the direction you have named.

Which parts of my role are aligned with where I want to go?

Which parts pull me away from that path?

What skills, experience, or exposure do I need to build this year?

This is not about criticising yourself or your role. It is about understanding the gap so you can address it deliberately.

3. Identify three 90-day actions.

Choose three concrete actions you can take in the next three months that would make a meaningful difference.

Booking a career development conversation with your manager

Asking to be involved in a project or committee that aligns with your desired direction

Enrolling in a course or program that builds a specific skill you need

Initiating three strategic networking conversations in or outside your organisation

Write these down and put them into your calendar. Treat them as commitments, not optional extras.

4. Have the conversation.

At some point, moving your career forward will require conversation.

Letting your manager know what you want next and asking what would need to be true for you to get there

Sharing with a mentor or senior leader that you are ready to step into more responsibility

Being honest about what is not working and exploring options

You do not need to have everything solved before you talk. You simply need to be willing to state clearly what you are aiming for.

5. Get structured support.

Trying to navigate growth alone is one of the biggest reasons women stay stuck longer than they need to.

Support might include:

A leadership program designed specifically for women

Coaching or mentoring

A peer group or community focused on similar goals

Being part of a structured development experience gives you tools, accountability, and a network, which together make it much more likely that you will follow through on your intentions.

If you are ready to move again in your career, stepping into something like this can be a powerful accelerator.

Feeling stuck does not mean you are not capable. It means you are ready for a new level of clarity, courage, and support.

You do not have to overhaul your entire career in one move. You only need to begin with one clear decision, one conversation, and one action that aligns with the future you want.


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