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Not all struggling adult children are struggling in obvious ways.

Many conscientious parents become trapped in cycles of guilt and rescuing.

The most powerful shift parents can make is moving from fixer to coach.

We hear a lot these days about struggling adult children and the heartbreak parents experience when communication is cut off. Yet far less attention is paid to a reality I see almost every day in my parent coaching practice: Parents who remain deeply involved in their adult children's lives but feel trapped by ongoing crisis, dependence, and demands for help.

In my forthcoming book, You Ruined My Life—Now You Owe Me!, I explore a huge dilemma that countless parents face today. Their adult child may be struggling with resentment, depression, anxiety, employment, finances, motivation, or independence. In these cases, their child has not "just walked away" but has not yet stepped into adulthood.

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