The Importance of Forgiveness

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A teary-eyed father told me his son used to say, "I'm seriously still trying to figure out what went down when you raised me." He then found a self-described "trauma-coach" on TikTok. This "coach" had no license, no credentials, just a ring light, a charismatic personality, and a huge following. The son's language and tone changed overnight to, "I now see you are a narcissist and that explains everything!"

By the way, I have seen similar situations where the newfound rattling cry out is "I'm the scapegoat," or "No contact is what I need to become my best self". Yes, maybe there are some kernels of truth if these messages resonate with adult children. But the, "This is my answer to everything that pisses me off about you" mentality is way too rigid and........

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