My boyfriend is sweet and loving, but he refuses to take any real responsibility. He doesn’t help pay bills, do chores or plan anything. It all falls on me. He says he is working on himself, but I see no progress. Am I being impatient, or ignoring a red flag? – Grow Up

Grow Up – I see all the red flags of someone who is being enabled to not have to change. Sometimes people do take longer than others to mature, but it doesn’t mean it’s your job to teach the lesson. If you aren’t giving him any real consequences for not helping with life responsibilities, then he has no real desire to change because he knows nothing will happen to him. If I were in your shoes, I would tell him the truth about all of this. Let him know you’re burnt out, looking for an equal and need to know this isn’t a preview of the rest of your........

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