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Men, this is a wake-up call about your fertility

Men, this is a wake-up call about your fertility
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I tried Mel Robbins' self-help mantra for a week - now I'm angrier than ever

I tried Mel Robbins' self-help mantra for a week - now I'm angrier than ever
26.03.2025 9

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This is why women are having such bad sex

This is why women are having such bad sex
18.03.2025 9

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I wore Kim Kardashian’s £68 nipple bra for a week – it's inexcusably stupid

12.03.2025 20

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I’ve been single for so long, I don’t think I can be in a relationship again

04.03.2025 10

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The ugly side of weight loss drugs is revealing itself

26.02.2025 10

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If your partner isn't your best friend, dump them now

18.02.2025 10

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An act of grotesque vandalism is taking place in British universities

12.02.2025 10

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The surprising sign that you are not actually in love

04.02.2025 8

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Going to private school has never been more embarrassing

28.01.2025 2

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Your date isn't a 'narcissist' - they just don't like you

22.01.2025 3

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Could you please gentle parent your children away from me

14.01.2025 30

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How I've made peace with my middle-age belly

As I write this, we are five days into January 2025. The world is awash with good intentions, teetotal advocates, and cut-price gym memberships. If...

07.01.2025 4

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I spent a year telling men where they were going wrong in bed

Last year, my new year’s resolution was to have better sex – to speak up for what I want in the sack and to not fake orgasms. Twelve months on and...

31.12.2024 8

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There are four kinds of bad gifts - and two are relationship red flags

My paternal grandmother was truly terrible at giving gifts. She is dead and gone now, so I can say such things, but she was famous for it. She was...

24.12.2024 8

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I am becoming invisible to men and I refuse to accept it

I have started to feel myself fade. It’s not a sudden and complete vanishing, but rather a slow flickering around the edges as my solidity begins...

10.12.2024 5

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My pension plan is selling pictures of my feet on OnlyFans

No one ever feels their age, do they? Ask anyone middle aged and over and they will say that they don’t feel any different from how they did in...

05.12.2024 7

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I tried to go a week without telling a lie – and learned how dishonest I am

Last week, I was issued a challenge: go for seven whole days without a telling a lie. No lies of omission, no little baby white lies, no...

26.11.2024 5

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Let's talk about the last sexual taboo for straight couples

Can we talk about lube? There can’t be many sexual taboos left, but lube use has surely got to be one of them, amongst heterosexual couples at...

20.11.2024 3

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Men of America, brace yourselves for celibacy

We are now one week on from the US election and, as much as it pains me to say it, Donald Trump has won in a landslide. The immediate aftermath has...

13.11.2024 9

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My rules for getting 'dirty talk' just right during sex

That notorious 18th century scallywag, the Marquis de Sade, once wrote that, “among libertines, it is commonly accepted that the most voluptuous...

06.11.2024 5

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At 42 I'm learning how to flirt again – without looking like a creep

I am a spectacular flirt; I always have been. Even as a baby, I am sure I would have been batting my eyelashes and making cute faces at anyone who...

29.10.2024 3

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The day that makes me question if I’m happy being single

Prepare yourself for something quite shocking. I don’t really enjoy my birthday. I am aware that is a strange thing to say and fundamentally at...

23.10.2024 3

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The class divide in British kissing

It’s 9am and I am walking into an important meeting with some very fancy London folk. The two women I am there to meet stand up to receive me and...

16.10.2024 5

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I posed nude when I was skint – and discovered something wonderful

Nothing will challenge your own self-image more profoundly than seeing 30 people’s artistic interpretations of your naked body. This was a lesson I...

08.10.2024 4

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I'm swapping thongs for big knickers - I urge you to join me

It has finally happened. I have reached an age where I want my underwear to be comfy and functional, rather than sexy and playful. I am in my...

01.10.2024 4

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Why won’t doctors believe me about the menopause?

Why did no one warn me about perimenopausal periods? Seriously. When I was 11, a district nurse came in to school and gave all the girls a frank...

29.09.2024 6

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I had to break up with a toxic friend – this is how I did it

Have you ever had to dump a friend? When it comes to romantic relationships, most of us will have dumped, or been dumped, multiple times. But in...

18.09.2024 4

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Age gap relationships are not just for ‘creeps’ and ‘cougars’

There is an old adage in dating known as “the rule of seven”. It goes like this: the youngest person you should date is half your age, plus seven....

11.09.2024 4

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Let me tell you exactly why women masturbate

A study by researchers at the University of Zurich, published earlier this year, found that women used masturbation as a “reliable coping strategy...

05.09.2024 2

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I’m sick of ADHD influencers – living with it is a nightmare  

I was diagnosed with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) in 2016. The intervening eight years have brought with them cycling peaks and...

28.08.2024 7

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I was a lecturer for 14 years. Students stalked, harassed and humiliated me

At the end of July this year, England’s higher education regulator, the Office for Students (OfS), released its guidance around harassment and...

22.08.2024 10

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I miss my friends once they become parents

Have you ever tried organising a baby shower when you don’t have any children of your own? This was precisely the task one of my oldest and dearest...

13.08.2024 6

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Having children would have cost me my career - I refused to do it

JD Vance, the Republican vice-presidential nominee, has been under fire for the past few weeks for mocking Vice-President Kamala Harris as one of...

07.08.2024 1

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It’s time to give the safe sex talk to your grandparents

Never mind having the safe sex talk with your teenager, have you considered having it with your parents and grandparents? You might have to....

30.07.2024 2

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My message to men on giving oral sex

Is it just me or is there a whole load more cunnilingus in TV and film than there ever has been before? Last week, fans of House of the Dragon were...

23.07.2024 3

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Women who bring their husbands to lunch with the girls should be arrested

I was not a candidate in the general election, but if I had been, one of my top policies would be harsh jail terms for anyone who brings their...

10.07.2024 7

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