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This Dating Coach’s 48-Hour Rule Could Change How You Judge First Dates

A dating coach says waiting two days can help you tell the difference between a real connection and first-date nerves.

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How long into a first date can you tell whether you’re interested in the person? For many, it’s almost immediate—and they’ll even completely write off their date before getting to know them. 

Sure, you might know pretty quickly whether or not you’re attracted to the person. However, that can also build over time, even if it’s not present right away.

According to Julie Nguyen, a certified dating coach at the Hily Dating App, most people reach their verdict way too quickly. To address this modern dating fault, she came up with the”48-hour rule,” which gives you two full days after a first date to decide whether you want a second one.

“The 48-hour rule is about adding spaciousness to your decision-making. Before you veto or confirm the date, give yourself two days to think it over,” she explains. “Instead of analyzing every detail of the date, pay attention to how your feelings........

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