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Getting Angry Saved My Relationship. If You’re With the Right Person, It Can Save Yours Too.

Learning how to express my anger changed everything.

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I never used to be an angry person, and I still don’t necessarily consider myself one today. However, over the past few years, I have been experiencing more anger than I had in the span of my life prior.

It seems the more I’ve healed in therapy and the safer I’ve felt in my close relationships, the more anger I’ve experienced. I believe this is because I finally feel safe enough to process all the trauma and hardships I’ve endured. Years of unhealthy relationships, medical dismissal, and martyrdom have finally caught up to me.

That being said, it’s been uncomfortable for me to express anger in my romantic relationship, especially since I’m with an incredibly kind and loving partner. My anger is rarely directed at him, but it can come up more than I’d like it to. Of course, every time it bubbles to the surface, he meets it with curiosity, empathy, and deep understanding, which has healed me (and strengthened our relationship) in ways I never thought were possible.

If my partner has taught me anything, it’s that anger isn’t a negative emotion—it’s a normal........

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