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3 Signs Your Partner Is Obsessed With You in an Unhealthy Way, According to Psychology

Psychology distinguishes healthy romantic passion from obsessive attachment, and the warning signs aren’t always obvious.

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At first, dating someone who’s completely obsessed with you can feel incredible. They remember everything you tell them and want to spend every free minute together. A few months later, you’re wondering when they last saw their friends or did anything that didn’t involve you.

Psychologist Robert Vallerand has spent years studying this sort of thing. His Dualistic Model of Passion describes two types of passion: harmonious, where someone can be crazy about you and still have their own life, and obsessive, where the relationship starts consuming their time and attention. In one study, couples were more likely to stay together three months........

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