Many of us have a tendency to romanticize the past. We remember the best parts and forget the rest, and then we wish we could somehow return to this blissful, yet mostly imaginary, time. Perhaps no decade has been misremembered and overly-romanticized as the 1980s.

Were the puffy hair, cheesy arcades, and shoulder pads really all that great? One Gen Xer, at least, says No. Psychiatrist Jeff Knuppel runs the YouTube channel GenXistence, where he shares wisdom on getting older as a Gen X man in a rapidly changing world. He has the perspective of someone who’s helping clients with the struggle while living through it himself.

In a recent viral video, Knuppel says we don’t actually miss the ’80s at all:

“I was a teenager in the 1980s. And I really did enjoy that era. But the fantasy I actually want…it’s the one where I wish we could rewind certain parts of daily life to that era and just sort of leave them that way. Not the whole decade, not all of the parts of it, just the parts that made life better.”

Here are the six things from the ’80s—and to a lesser degree the ’60s, ’70s, and even ’90s—that many of us still crave:

1. The freedom to be unreachable

Perhaps one of the most obvious differences between life in the ’80s and the modern world is how, back then, we were mostly unreachable a lot of the time.

If you weren’t at home or at work, no one could get a hold of you. Knuppel says that’s a “boundary no one had to think about.” He elaborates that, of course, we all have the freedom to become unreachable now if we want, but it takes a lot of work to create the same freedom:

“You have to silence your phone or turn off notifications, explain to people why you didn’t respond. If you go a few hours without answering a text, people wonder if something’s wrong. Being unreachable has gone from the default state of a normal day to being something you have to actively create and defend.”

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