Being in a healthy, loving relationship usually involves two people who can share emotional reciprocity. There is patience, understanding, and peace.

But some people often feel like they are “too much” in relationships. This can come with feelings of anxiety and disrupt trust and growth—whether the relationship is with a romantic partner, family member, or friend.

During a recent appearance on the Zach Sang Show, motivational expert Mel Robbins broke down exactly why some people feel they are “too much.” Robbins explained it with an analogy called the “10-gallon people” theory that Oprah Winfrey first shared with her.

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The ‘10-gallon people’ theory

In the clip, Robbins explained that understanding the “10-gallon people” theory has been “so transformational for me.”

Robbins added that she learned it from Oprah, who first heard about it from Bishop T.D. Jakes. Jakes helped Oprah apply it to her complicated relationship with her mom.

The theory uses measurement sizes to describe people: There are “10-gallon people” and “pint people.”

“‘Ten-gallon people’ need 10 gallons of love, and 10 gallons of........

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