Communication experts say highly likable people do 10 things in conversations to build relationships
Making friends and developing deeper, stronger relationships starts with good conversation. Sometimes that means small talk at work, while other times it’s the kind of conversation that really takes off at a party.
Some people are naturals when it comes to easy, flowing conversation, especially highly likable people, who tend to attract others and often hold the key to mastering genuine conversation. From their gestures to the way they articulate questions, there’s a lot others can learn from them.
Communication experts who spoke to Upworthy say there are 10 things highly likable people do during conversations to build stronger relationships.
Here are all 10, according to experts
1. They listen without distraction
Listeners often make the best conversationalists.
“That means not looking at your phone or scanning around the room to see who you want to talk to next,” says Kerri Garbis, CEO and founder of Ovation Communication. “Focus on the person in front of you only. Make eye contact. This fosters a relationship because when you are fully present, it signals respect, interest, and helps others feel valued versus like they are competing for your attention.”
Being inquisitive about what people need during conversations is key to building stronger relationships.
“If you take a moment to ask your colleague or even friend, ‘What are you worried about? What’s the biggest concern facing you right now?’ you can get great data on how you can help them – in a way that taps into something urgent and top of mind for them,” says Kate Mason, PhD, an executive communications coach and author of Powerfully Likeable: A Woman’s Guide to Effective Communication. “They’ll remember your thoughtfulness and the actions you took.”
3. They balance the........
