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Resentment works like ice on a wound; it numbs pain but prevents healing.

To escape the chronic reactivity that resentment engenders, behave in ways that make you like yourself better.

Blame can turn hidden guilt and shame into resentment.

Though understandable and usually justified, resentment is a self-eroding emotional state that makes us powerless over our own well-being. Instead of improving, it makes us devalue someone else, keeping us in enduring devalued states. It works like ice on a wound, numbing pain but preventing healing. It impairs self-awareness and turns us into someone we’re not. We cannot heal and resent at the same time.

Resentment impairs self-awareness because it feels different from the way it looks. We may feel hurt or mistreated but look mean and unfriendly—in facial expressions, body tension, tone of voice. People respond to how we look, not........

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