The Importance of Empathy

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Interpersonal interactions can be messy and confusing at times.

However, we have a choice in how we choose to interpret them.

By adopting the most generous interpretation of others, we can promote empathy and kindness.

You may have heard the parable of the empty boat. It goes something like this: A man traveling down a river is bumped by a boat. He becomes incensed until he realizes that no one is stewarding the vessel. Once he finds, “No one is to blame,” he relaxes.

Now imagine that someone is in that boat. We can make many assumptions about the captain's intent, but we do not know for certain.

Option 1: Assume the driver is careless, inconsiderate, or incompetent.

Option 2: Consider that the driver might be overwhelmed, injured, or simply “human.”

Which of these might lead to a better interpersonal interaction? In the first example, we might yell, accuse, or even fight. In the second, we might be concerned, helpful, or even loving. This is why I encourage my patients to use the most........

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